Just around the corner...

Its almost 2015! Just around the corner! Like, not even a month away. Wow! Where did time go? My Facebook feed is filling up with new years resolutions and what resolutions you should or shouldn't make. It's not even Christmas yet! One article that caught my eye was an article from the 'Elite Daily'. 10 Toxic People You Shouldnt Bring With You Into The New Year . I chose to read this. Pure curiosity. Mainly because I have been struggling with having to deal with some very two faced people recently. This article really opened my eyes. Why am I making space for these people in my life to begin with?

I really like to give people the benefit of the doubt. By nature, I always try to see the good in everyone. I usually can find some sort of goodness. (I am not talking about people I read about or see on television or word of mouth.) But I am starting to see more and more people who end up with more negative qualities than good. Sometimes the bad does outweigh the good. And yet I continue to try and see the good. Focus on the good. What do I get in return? Stabbed in the back. Lied to. Used.

I am finally (at the age of 27) starting to realize that I don't have to see the good. I don't even have to look.  I don't need to waste my time or energy. I don't need to try. I can be kind to these people with out letting them take up space in my life. I can be cordial and leave it at that. I don't need to make small talk with these people. I don't need to try and fix what is broken. I don't need to try and make things more comfortable for them. I don't need to try and change my ways so these people may like me, want to be my friend, stop backstabbing me. Whatever it is, I don't have to do. I can still be a kind person and still not hand someone the knife to stab me with when I walk away.

I have always struggled with this. I felt like I needed to still be friendly with people who were not friendly people. I thought I was treating others the way I want them to treat me. But really, if we aren't going to be friends, I just want you to treat me cordial. And if you aren't going to, I am not going to give you the knife to stab me with anymore.

I don't have to be friends with you on facebook because we went to school together, or you are dating my friend or you are friends with my friend or we work together or you are friends with my husband/sister/mother/cousin/boss/aunt/coworker. I don't need to have drinks with you after work. I don't have to go to your childs birthday party. I don't have to "press 1" to write "Happy Birthday" on your facebook page when I get that annoying text. I don't have to get that text! I don't have to invite you to dinner because I invited a mutual friend and they are really good friends with you and we used to be friends. Just because you're my relative doesn't mean I have to invite you to my husbands birthday party.

I don't have to bring you into 2015! Heck, I don't have to bring you into tomorrow. You wont take up anymore space in my head, in my newsfeed, in my friendly conversations or in my life. I will smile, say hi, and by kind though. Why? Because that's who I am. I am a kind person. I wont take your dislike for me/two faced attitude/ unkindness personal anymore... and I wont take it into the new year either.

I hope everyone has a Merry Christmas and a Wonderful New Years!




*This is not about one specific person. However, if you are reading this and think this is about you, then chances are it may be. If you feel that way, then chances are you have been unkind/twofaced/mean/rude/hateful to me whether I know it or not.