Just around the corner...

Its almost 2015! Just around the corner! Like, not even a month away. Wow! Where did time go? My Facebook feed is filling up with new years resolutions and what resolutions you should or shouldn't make. It's not even Christmas yet! One article that caught my eye was an article from the 'Elite Daily'. 10 Toxic People You Shouldnt Bring With You Into The New Year . I chose to read this. Pure curiosity. Mainly because I have been struggling with having to deal with some very two faced people recently. This article really opened my eyes. Why am I making space for these people in my life to begin with?

I really like to give people the benefit of the doubt. By nature, I always try to see the good in everyone. I usually can find some sort of goodness. (I am not talking about people I read about or see on television or word of mouth.) But I am starting to see more and more people who end up with more negative qualities than good. Sometimes the bad does outweigh the good. And yet I continue to try and see the good. Focus on the good. What do I get in return? Stabbed in the back. Lied to. Used.

I am finally (at the age of 27) starting to realize that I don't have to see the good. I don't even have to look.  I don't need to waste my time or energy. I don't need to try. I can be kind to these people with out letting them take up space in my life. I can be cordial and leave it at that. I don't need to make small talk with these people. I don't need to try and fix what is broken. I don't need to try and make things more comfortable for them. I don't need to try and change my ways so these people may like me, want to be my friend, stop backstabbing me. Whatever it is, I don't have to do. I can still be a kind person and still not hand someone the knife to stab me with when I walk away.

I have always struggled with this. I felt like I needed to still be friendly with people who were not friendly people. I thought I was treating others the way I want them to treat me. But really, if we aren't going to be friends, I just want you to treat me cordial. And if you aren't going to, I am not going to give you the knife to stab me with anymore.

I don't have to be friends with you on facebook because we went to school together, or you are dating my friend or you are friends with my friend or we work together or you are friends with my husband/sister/mother/cousin/boss/aunt/coworker. I don't need to have drinks with you after work. I don't have to go to your childs birthday party. I don't have to "press 1" to write "Happy Birthday" on your facebook page when I get that annoying text. I don't have to get that text! I don't have to invite you to dinner because I invited a mutual friend and they are really good friends with you and we used to be friends. Just because you're my relative doesn't mean I have to invite you to my husbands birthday party.

I don't have to bring you into 2015! Heck, I don't have to bring you into tomorrow. You wont take up anymore space in my head, in my newsfeed, in my friendly conversations or in my life. I will smile, say hi, and by kind though. Why? Because that's who I am. I am a kind person. I wont take your dislike for me/two faced attitude/ unkindness personal anymore... and I wont take it into the new year either.

I hope everyone has a Merry Christmas and a Wonderful New Years!




*This is not about one specific person. However, if you are reading this and think this is about you, then chances are it may be. If you feel that way, then chances are you have been unkind/twofaced/mean/rude/hateful to me whether I know it or not.

3 Day Refresh

I have never been someone to try fad diets. Even after my first child, second child, and not even after my third. (Hes almost 2...if I were going to try a diet it would have been sooner.) I had the freshman 15 through out my two years of college (even after the freshman stage). In high school, the diet I did go on was due to braces and an expander... There is only so much food you can eat when theres a big gap at the top of your mouth. So needless to say, when I hear someone mention these shakes, and feeling healthy, the word diet never came to mind. I didnt think, oh my, I need to go on that diet. I thought "Oh my, I need to try this magical shake". It wasnt until the person who origionally mentioned this so called magic shake, walked into the room, 2 months since I last saw her. Wow. She glowed. Yes, she was skinnier. But she also seemed to have this energy. Her skin looked good too! (NOT THAT IT DIDNT BEFORE.) This was just different. What has this woman done? How can my skin glow? Where do I find this energy? (sure I wouldnt mind losing a couple pounds but ...) Whats in that cup? Shake what? Shakeology? I must google this. That is what went through my mind. As I googled I kept getting this www.beachbody.com website that kept popping up. Excersise? I dont want that. I want this magic tasty shake that gives energy and good skin. What does this have to do with www.beachbody.com? While searching the website, I found what I was looking for. The shake. I decided to give it a try. So what better way to try this magic plan than with a 3 day refresh. I can stick it out for three days right? Right?! Well today this magic plan/shake/stuff came. YAY! I am so excited to try this. I will address the promises of this "3 Day Refresh" in my next post. I will post before and after pictures.

Monopoly Jr.

Monopoly is one of my favorite games. why I have not tried Monopoly JR. before is beyond me. my children rarely actually finish games beeause they are young and their attention span is quite Short. After receiving this game (Free) courtesy of Bzzz Agent and Hasbro I finally found a new family favorite for game time with my soon to be 5 and now 6 year old, They truly loved the game. The awesomeness of the joy on their face and the opportunity for them to learn counting, money Value and following game rules is priceless. I reccomend this game to anyone with young children! I give this a 5 star rating !

* Although I received this game free, all opinions are my own.

Influenster

Influenster is a product testing site where you fill out surveys to earn specific badges depending on your interests and hobbies.The awesome part about these surveys is that you may be chosen to receive what is called a “Vox Box”.  A Vox Box is a box (obviously!) that has a handful of different items from different brands all relating to some sort of theme. It comes in the mail. I have been very lucky to receive a Voxbox. Or maybe two. I really really enjoy getting to try new products, and most of all, when you are chosen to receive and review these products, they are FREE! I feel very passionate about giving my honest opinion about products, and some other sites I have tried want you to just write something good about the product. Influenster has been a very honest website that asks me if I love it or hate it when it comes to the products they send me to try. I am always asked for my honest opinion. I am also asked to let everyone know that I received these products free of charge from influenster in return for my honest and unbiased opinion. It has been an awesome opportunity and I hope to receive more VoxBox items to review in the future! I love that a website takes the time to give people products they are interested in to try out and give their honest opinion to all those who will listen. If you have not signed up for this website, I highly recommend you do.

Game Night

I am so excited to try some new games for our family game night. Usually the game night consists of my husband, stepdaughter and myself. Finding games that are younger child friendly and fun for all is somewhat of a challenge. I am excites that I was asked by bzzagent to try out these awesome games and give my honest feedback. As soon as we play, you will get to hear what my family and I thought of these games!

The Confusing Art of step Parenting ...

I have yet to figure out how to be a step parent. It is actually more difficult than even the movies Make it out to be. There is this extremely thin line You can't cross. Sometimes it's so thin I'm not sure if I have crossed it or not. Throw in The Other Parent ... You know, the one You "replaced.."

   As a soon to be stepmom, I am fully aware I am not the Step kids Mother. I am very well aware ( plus get the occasional reminder.) It is difficult because often I have the responsibilities of a mother but not the authority. There's a thin line and sometimes it's invisible.  I struggle daily with this. Arrrrrgh

My Phablet!

Guess what?! I really Am excited to Announce I have the new Samsung Galaxy Note 3 ! Do we Know what that means? BLOGGING ! I love the pen! l can write my blog instead of Typing . Which means I Can blog ANY time ... Any Where! ya! yay! Expect more! Expect awesome!